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Are there rules to follow in the Forums? Yes. We
only have a few rules but please adhere to them to keep The BSWC a pleasant
place to be.
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Respect. We ask everyone to respect everyone else. No personal
attacks, no defamatory, inflammatory, rude, abrupt or racial comments.
Teach, not preach.
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- Inappropriate
subjects. You can talk about almost anything and everything
within The BSWC forums, with a few exceptions. There are certain
subjects on which everyone is divided and threads on these subjects
turn into debates, can cause offence and will be removed. These
include: race (unless the thread is regarding a problem you are
personally experiencing because of your race), immigration, religion
and politics (including war). Also please be aware if you
discuss any problems you might have regarding your ex-husband and/or
his second wife that this is The British Second Wives Club and other
Members may not share your point of view. Certain comments may
be acceptable but whole posts/threads discussing problems or issues
are not.
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- Bad Language.
Please do not use bad language in the forums. Consider whether
the word you wish to use is offensive or not. If it is
offensive, please use the
smilie (if you type **** the smilie will be automatically inserted
into your post).
Do not put the smilie in the middle of a swear word or obscure the
word by replacing certain letters with symbols (such as *%&# for
example). Partially obscured words are not allowed and will be removed.
If the word is not offensive, please use the whole word, and not a
partially obscured version of it. If in doubt, please use the
smilie. How do I know if the word is classed as bad language?
Would you use this word in your home or in the office, talking to your
boss, talking to your mother, talking to children, talking to the
checkout lady in M&S, talking to the police, in Court or at a work's
conference when giving a speech? If you answer is no then it shouldn't
go in the forum and a censored smilie should go in it's place. Note:
the word 'bitch' is allowed.
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- Block capitals.
Please do not use block capitals in either your posting or in the
title. If someone uses block capitals, they are considered to be
shouting.
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Report a problem. You can report any post or PM you may receive
directly to the Moderators by clicking on the ‘report this post’
link bottom right of the post/PM in question. The issue will then be
addressed.
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Advertising. Generally posts which contain advertising
and/or links to commercial websites or companies are not allowed. If a Member is
requesting information within the Forums, you can post information or a link to
a website of a manufacturer or main provider of that service (for example, if a
Member was asking about mobile telephones, you can post information to
Vodaphone, Orange, O2 etc but not to individual dealers of Mobile telephones).
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Removal of posts/threads. If any posts or threads are
removed from the forum, they should not be restarted (or the removal
of the thread discussed) in the Forum.
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Other Members. Do not
discuss other Members, either past or present, in the forums..
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Your Membership is personal. We
ask you to ensure no one other than you ever uses your login details to
gain access to The BSWC. Remember, when you joined The BSWC, you agreed
to The BSWC
terms and conditions,
which state:
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The British Second Wives Club
is for Second Wives, and therefore it is a Female Only Club. Men are not
allowed! If you join The BSWC and your husband/partner takes an interest in The
Club, he may find the issues raised within of great help and you may post
questions on your partner's behalf. You can share everything with him if you so
choose but your BSWC Membership is yours and yours alone. Your husband/partner
must not post in the Forums or enter the Chat Room using your login
details. The security of your own computer and your own login details are
solely your responsibility and if anyone other than you uses your login
details to access The BSWC website, your Membership may be terminated
immediately and permanently.
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What happens if I do not follow the rules?
The BSWC prides itself on being friendly place for all of it's Members
to enjoy. To this end, The BSWC will enforce the rules above and if you
breach any of them then appropriate action will be taken. For minor
breaches, you will receive an email from the moderators and we ask you to not
commit the same breach of the rules again.
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For repeat offenders, or for those
who commit a more serious breach of the rules, their Membership may be
suspended, either for a limited or indefinite time, or permanently deleted.
If The BSWC suspends indefinitely or deleted your Membership account, it will at
it's own discretion refund your Membership fee on a pro-rata basis for each full
month of Membership not yet used, less a Ł3 administration fee.
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Whilst The BSWC will try to resolve any issues which may arise to the
satisfaction of all, we will deal with the situation in the best way
for the majority of the Members. The BSWC’s decision in all matters is
final.
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How do I use the Forums?
To start a new topic
click on the section you would like to post in, for example 'Money',
then click on the words 'New Topic' on the top right of your screen. Type in a subject for your posting
(please type something like 'Advice on CSA payments required' and not just
something like 'Help!') and then type your posting into the
large box in the middle of your screen.
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Posts/threads need to be posted in
the correct forum or they will be moved to the correct forum. As Limited
Membership only allows access to certain forums, you may need to upgrade to Full
Membership to view these posts and replies if they are placed into forums only
Full Members can access.
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If you join as a Limited
Member, you can upgrade to Full Membership at anytime by paying Ł18.
Once your payment is received, your Membership will be upgraded with full access
to all areas. Full Members cannot downgrade to, or rejoin as, a
Limited Member.
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- You will see you can
customise you message by changing the font size, colour etc if you
want to. If you hover your cursor over any of the symbols above
where you have typed you will see what each symbol will do if you
click. Some of the most popular smilies are shown, for more click on
the 'more' button. By clicking on the smilie will insert it into
your message. Smilies can make all the difference to our
postings, they can be a great way of expressing your thoughts and
feelings ~ please do think about adding them into your message.
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- When you have
finished typing your message, click on 'Preview' to make sure it looks OK ~ remember to
break up big paragraphs as this will make is easier for other members to
read. If you like what you see click on 'Post Message'.
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- Please do not
use block capitals ~ IT LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE SHOUTING ALL THE TIME AND IT IS
DIFFICULT TO READ!!! Please remember to break large area of text up into
paragraphs to make it easier to read and please don't use 'txt speak',
such as CU IN 2WKS.
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- To reply to an
existing thread simply click on the word 'Reply' found at both the bottom and
top of the page.
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- Please do not
'hijack' a thread (talking about something other than the original subject, or
taking the thread off from it's original direction) ~ if you wish to talk about something else, please start a new thread.
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- You can insert
someone else's posting into yours, if you want to respond directly to what they
said. To do this, do not click on 'Reply', instead click on 'Quote' which
can be found above each post. Click on this, which will open a 'reply' box with the original
text inside quote tags.
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- For example, if you wish to quote someone who has said
"Good Morning and how are you?", once you click on the quote button, this will be
shown as "[QUOTE=their username]Good Morning and how are you?[/QUOTE]". Type your response
after the "[/QUOTE]". If you don't want to quote everything they have
said, just remove the text you don't want from inside the quote tags, for
example "[QUOTE=their username]Good Morning[/QUOTE]". There is
other code inside the tags, please do not delete or alter this.
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- If you wish to
insert a link to another website into your posting (these are called hyperlinks), e.g.:
www.thebritishsecondwivesclub.co.uk , it
can sometimes be too long, look ugly and distort the thread if you copy the
whole web address. It is tidier to be able
to have the link like this: To visit The British Second Wives Club, click
here.
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- To do this while typing
a new post:
- 1/ Click on the world
symbol, when you have the posting window open.
- 2/ That will give
you: [url][/url]
- 3/ Between the
brackets, type the text you wish to make into a link, for example: here
- 4/ It will look like this: [url]here[/url]5/
In the first bracket, add a = symbol and the web address, like this:
- [url=www.thebritishsecondwivesclub.co.uk]here[/url]
- This gives you, when you
preview or post, this:
here
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- The British Second Wives
Club reserve the right to remove any links which are inappropriate,
offensive, advertising or irrelevant.
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How do I use the Chat Room?
The BSWC Chat
Room is always open for any of The BSWC Members to use whenever they want to
have a chat. To enter The
BSWC Chat Room, click on the button called 'Chat'. You will automatically
logged in using your BSWC username and password. Please also use The Chat Room
section of the forum to arrange times to meet others in The Chat Room,
or just to say you're in there now!
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- Chat about whatever
you want, as long as it is not offensive to other Members.
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- To
keep The Chat Room a nice place to be, please bear a few things in
mind:
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- Picture The
Chat Room as a large table with all your friends sitting around it.
Come and go as you like but please do say hello and goodbye.
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- PLEASE do not
have a one to one chat with just one other person across The Chat Room
when others are there - it would be rude to do this when sitting
around a table with your friends and it is rude to do it in The Chat
Room. If you do wish to talk to just one person, click on their name
in the top left corner of your screen and you can have a private chat
with them. Do keep an eye on the main Chat Room though as someone else
may be chatting to you and thinking you are ignoring them because you
are not replying.
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- Quiz Night,
every other Thursday from 8:30pm is FUN TIME! Please do not come into the
Quiz and start chatting about non-fun things.
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- Think of the
Quiz as a pub quiz - this means you only have your (and maybe your
DH's) brain power to answer the questions: no googling, no
dictionaries, no looking the answers up! This is cheating! Just answer
the questions as best you can - if you don't know the answer, just
guess! The most fun comes from the wrong answers!
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- If you are
hosting the quiz, please follow these guidelines:
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- 1/ The
questions need to be easy to answer and a bit smutty is OK!
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- 2/ If a
question is not answered within 60 seconds, then the Quiz Mistress is
to give a clue, then another, then another so hopefully the question
will be answered within two minutes max ~ quick fire! The QM is to
have some clues ready beforehand!
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- 3/ Start at
8:30 prompt (unless there is a very good reason not to do so). Finish
the first half by about 9:00, have a ten minute break and aim to finish
the second half by not much after 9:45.
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- 4/ With the
round up of scores and choosing who does next week, it will all be
over by 10:00, which is fine as many have to get up for work the next
day.
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- 5/ Most
importantly ~ it is just for fun! Please, please, please do not google
or look the answers up. It ruins it for everyone else and it is
cheating. If anyone cheats, they may be booted out of the quiz and/or
banned from any future quizzes.
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- Quiz nights
are best when it all happens quickly and is fun.
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- If you are
setting the Quiz, please set 20 questions, with a comfort break in the
middle. Please do not set questions which have a number for the answer -
the room gets flooded and we all get booted out! Please select your
questions from a broad range of subjects and not just from your own
interests. Remember, The BSWC has Members from all over the
world so please do not set questions which would be unknown outside
The UK.
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answer a question, your answer may appear on your screen before it
appears on everyone else's - this is why it might look as if you were
first with the answer, but you might not have been. The only screen
which counts is the Quiz Mistress's one).
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- The Quiz
Mistress should choose red font - and no one else to use red please!
The QM should announce when the next question is coming, like 'Q17 is
next....' and please can everyone else stop chatting then and wait for
the question.
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- When you are hosting
a Quiz, please post about it beforehand in The Chat Room forum to
remind everyone.
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- If you've
never joined in on Quiz Night, please join us - you can just watch if
you want to.
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- Sometimes The
Chat Room and/or your connection will 'boot' you out of The Chat Room.
Often, all you need to do is come back in again. However sometimes The
Chat Room will not let you back in, and this is because the room
might not actually know you have left. It will still show your
username as logged in. So when you try to log back in under your
username, it will not let you in because it thinks you are already in
there. Try logging in using a slightly different username (the
Chat Room will accept also any username).
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- If you try to
connect to the chat room from work, you might not be able to get in. Some
companies do not allow chat rooms to run on their systems.
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- How can I share
my pictures with everyone else?
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- There are two
ways to share your pictures:
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- Uploading pictures
direct from your PC: Save your pictures to your PC, making sure
they are less than 250Kb ~ we cannot really help you with this part as
everyone's PC settings are different.
Handy tips - set your digital
camera to its lowest quality setting before you take the pictures
or use a programme on your PC to reduce the size of your photos.
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- When you are
typing a posting, click on 'Additional Options' which is near the bottom left of
your screen. Click on 'Browse' and find the picture you
want to share on you PC. Once you click 'Post' the picture will be
included. You can add a maximum of six 250Kb photos to each posting.
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- On-line photo album:
If your pictures are stored on an on-line photo album, you will need
to copy the URL for the picture from your on-line album. The URL
will look something like this: http://www.yourphotos.com/your_album/yourpicture.
Then click on the 'picture' symbol (
)
when you are typing your post. This will give you the code: [img][/img]
in your posting. Add the URL of your picture in to the middle bit of the
code, which will give you: [img]http://www.yourphotos.com/your_album/yourpicture[/img]
When you finish your posting and have clicked 'Post', your picture will be
included in your post.
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How
can I add smilies into my signature? You can add smilies into your
signature if you wish, as many of The BSWC Members have already done
so. The easiest way to do this is:
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Click reply to any thread, or start a new thread and then type the
words and insert the smilies you wish to use in your signature into
that post. You will see all the smilies have codes, which you
can see in your post. Copy it, then discard the posting (do not
click post!) Then go into your profile (click on 'profile' in
the top purple bar at the top of each forum page) and click on 'Forum
Profile Information' on the left hand side, half way down. Paste
your words and smilies into the signature box and then click 'Change
Profile' at the bottom of the page.
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- How do I add or
change my details in my profile? To the top of your screen
above the forum boards you will see a button marked 'Profile'. In your
Profile, you can customise
your settings, upload your avatar, signature etc., After you have made your
changes always click on the 'Change Profile' button at the bottom of you screen
otherwise your setting will not be saved.
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- How do I give
myself an avatar? First of all find an avatar somewhere out there on
the web or you can use one of your own pictures ~ it needs to be less than
250Kb. You can either copy the URL (not recommended) or save it to your PC
(recommended). Once you have
done this, open your Profile and click on 'Forum Profile Information''.
Click on 'Browse' and find the avatar you want to use on your PC.
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- Some avatars
move, like this one:
but you may find if you upload an avatar direct from your PC, it is
just static. There is a way around this. Visit
Tinypic, upload
your avatar there and then copy the 'Direct link for layouts'. Paste this into your
profile, where it says 'I have my own pic'. Click 'change
profile'.
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- What do the Stars
mean, under my username? You will notice
most BSWC Members will have stars under their name ~ these are based on
your post count. The more you post, the more stars you can get!
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- No stars: 0 - 49
50 - 249
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250 - 499
- We might add more stars for really big posters!
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- Where can I test
my settings?
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- In the
Technical section of the forum, you will see a Testing area. Please feel
free to experiment with your settings in there, setting up your signature,
avatars or you might just want to practice posting before going into the main
forums.
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What
do the abbreviations, such as DP and SS, mean? Here are some
abbreviations used in the forums:
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DH Dear
Husband
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DP Dear Partner
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LP Loving Partner
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SO Significant other
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BM Birth (or Biological) Mother
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BF Boyfriend
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DS Dear Son
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DD Dear Daughter
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SS Step Son
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SD Step Daughter
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YSD Youngest Step Daughter
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YSS Youngest Step Son
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Skids Step kids
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BFH Bitch From Hell
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PBFH Psycho Bitch From Hell
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RP Rat Pants
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XW Xwife
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LW Late Wife
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MIL Mother In Law
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FIL Father In Law
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PAS Parental Alienation Syndrome
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SAHM Stay At Home Mum
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IYKWIM If You Know What I Mean
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OMG Oh My God
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IYSWIM If you see what I mean
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TMI Too much information
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WOW Wife of widower
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POW Partner of widower
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IMHO In my humble opinion
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LOL Laugh out loud
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FWIW For what it's worth
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AKA Also known as..
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BTW By the way
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FAQ Frequently asked questions
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FWIW For what it's worth
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FYI For your information
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ROFL Rolling on the floor laughing
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- How do Personal
Messages (PM's) work? The Personal
Message system we have at The BSWC is like an internal email system. You
can contact other Club Members privately by sending them a PM (as long as the
other person has this function enabled). You can do this by clicking on the
under their
username or through their profile (if you can't see this symbol then the other person is not
accepting PM's). If you receive a PM, you will also receive an email
informing you of this. You can switch off this email
notification in your profile, by clicking on 'Personal Message
Options' then where is says 'Notify by email every time you receive a
personal message, change 'Always' to 'Never' then click 'Change
Profile'. Please do not click 'reply' when you receive an email,
they are for notification only and will not be delivered.
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BSWC.
We
take security very seriously here at The BSWC. Security at The BSWC is
shared between ourselves (The BSWC) and you, the Member. We undertake to:
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Provide you with a safe, secure Club where you feel you can relax, open up
and shares your feelings/problems with others here who understand.
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Ensure only true Second Wives/Step Mothers obtain Membership and ensure
Ex-wives who only wish to pry do not.
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Make everything run with the minimum of fuss.
The
first thing to do is to clear your Password History (the section which remembers
all passwords):
***Warning,
before doing this, make sure you know all your user names and passwords for
every site you visit, as this will clear all of them!***
Close all
browsers and open a new one (not as The BSWC)
Click on
'Tools' on the top bar, up there ^^^
Click on
'Internet Options'
Click on
'Content'
Click on
'AutoComplete settings'
Untick 'user
name and passwords on forms'
Click 'Clear
passwords'
Click 'OK'
Click 'OK'
again
Click
'General'
Click 'Delete
files'
Tick 'Delete
all off line content/browsing history'
Click 'OK'
***If you get
an egg timer as a cursor for more than a few seconds, then your computer really
is/was full of rubbish which would have slowed it down.***
Click 'clear
history'
Click 'OK'
Click 'OK'
again
You will
still have to untick the ‘sign me in every visit’ each time you visit this site
but at least your PC will not remember your passwords for you (or whoever is
looking).
***Everyone
should delete their Temporary Internet Files at least once a week as it will
help to speed your computer up.***
Try visiting
The BSWC now ~ it should show you a locked forum ~ that is, you cannot access
any areas of the forum.
Try logging
in. It should not prompt you and should not try to auto-complete your user name
or password as you are typing them.
If someone
else who uses your PC re-ticks the AutoComplete for 'user name and passwords on
forms', your PC will ask you if you want it to remember your user name and
password the next time you log in ~ just click 'No'.
If you have
to type your full user name and password each time you visit then you have good
security ~ if you can get straight into the forum/Member's Area, then you do
not.
One last
point: if someone can guess your user name (maybe you use the same one in
different places) then they *could* enter it where you login and then tick 'Lost
Password'. The system will then automatically email the password to your email
address ~ so you need to make sure your email is secure by password protecting
it. As there are so many different email systems out there, it is very
difficult to say what is the best way to do this. You could maybe set up a
Hotmail or Yahoo account or use a safe work email address if you cannot lock
your email system.
If you ever
feel someone has used your login details, please contact us immediately either
through the contact page on the main BSWC website (preferred), by PM or by
telephone.
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How do I change my password?
Your password can be changed in your profile. Click on 'Profile' in the
blue bar at the top of the Forums, and then click on 'Account Related Settings'
on the left hand side in your profile settings.
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I am a
new Member and cannot log in to The Forums. As The BSWC is run by
humans and not by computer, once you have paid your Membership will be set up
manually within 24 hours, although it is often quicker. If you are paying
by cheque, your Membership will be set up once we receive your cheque.
Once your Membership is activated, you will receive an email. Please wait until
you receive this confirmation email from The BSWC saying your Membership is
approved before trying to log in.
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I have
just joined but cannot find where to pay for my Membership. You will
have received an email from The BSWC when you completed the application form,
giving you a link to where you can pay your membership fee. The link is:
www.thebritishsecondwivesclub.co.uk/payment
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I am an
existing Member and cannot log in to The Forums. Firstly, make
sure you are entering your username and password correctly.
Secondly, make sure you are entering them only in lower case, ie: use jane
and not Jane. Thirdly, check your Membership has not lapsed.
Before the end of your Membership, you will have received an email from us
asking if you wish to renew. If we have not received a reply to this
email, we will have assumed you do not wish to renew and your account will
have been closed. To reopen your account and pay for your
Membership,
click here.
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I cannot access The
Members Area. There is one username and password for everyone to use
to access The Members Area ~ this is totally different to the forums where you
have to use your own username and password to enter. Although there is
only one username/password for everyone, the system will record who has used it
to enter so, as always, keep it secret! The current username and password
can be found
here.
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I can
only access some of The BSWC Forums. If you have join The BSWC as a
Limited Member, you will only be able to see certain forums. You will need
to upgrade to a Supporting Member to access all the forums.
Click
here for more information.
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I cannot access The Chat Room. The
Chat Room uses software called Java. If you are trying to access the
Chat Room from home and you are having problems, make sure your Java is up
to date by visiting
www.java.com
(it's free). If you are trying to access The Chat Room from work,
you may find your employer has blocked Java access (often to stop
employees from spending time in Chat Rooms!)
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I am worried my husband's exwife will try to join The
BSWC. All Memberships are personally vetted. Let us know if you
are worried about someone joining The BSWC by visiting The Members
Area and letting us know the details (this is available to Supporting
Members only).
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I am no longer a second wife. Can I stay as a Member of The
BSWC? Yes! If the relationship with your partner fails
for any reason, you are more than welcome to remain a Member of The
BSWC for as long as you wish. However, please be aware of the
rule below which states:
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Also please be aware if you discuss any problems you might have
regarding your ex-husband and/or his second wife that this is The
British Second Wives Club and other Members may not share your point
of view. Certain comments may be acceptable but whole
posts/threads discussing problems or issues are not.
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The BSWC is here for you at this difficult time, and you may ask for
and receive advice regarding the breakdown of your relationship but
please always consider how your posts may be viewed by other BSWC
Members.
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- Can I add my
birthday to The BSWC calendar? If you enter your date of
birth (with or without the year) into your profile, the calendar will
automatically show your birthday.
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- How safe are the regional meetings?
They are totally safe! Unlike free (or 'open') forums, every Member
of The BSWC has been vetted to prove their identity, so you know they
are who they say they are. The BSWC have full
details (full name and address) of all Members who you may meet through
The Club Forums.
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How do I renew my Membership? Visit The Members Area and
follow the link from there or
click here.
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What happens if I don't renew my Membership? We will
email you once your Membership has expired, or is close to expiring
with details on how to renew your Membership. If you do not
renew, or if we don't hear from you, we will hold your Membership
details for 28 days after which time your username may be deleted
together with your post count and any personal messages you had
stored.
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Can I telephone you? Due to the high number of calls we
receive, we ask you not to call us. The
telephone number on The BSWC website is for Media Professionals only.
Thank you.
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I am not receiving emails from The BSWC.
PLEASE check your junk/spam folders. Certain ISPs are a nightmare
for us to send emails to (we do not know why). AOL, Hotmail and MSN
are some of these.
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What is The BSWC Library and where do I find it? The
BSWC Library is a collection of books, found on Amazon, which are
relevant to British Second Wives and/or stepmothers and are personally
recommended by BSWC Members. The Library can be found on
clicking on the 'Books' link at the top of The Forums or by visiting
www.bswc.co.uk/library
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What shall I do if I feel someone else's posting is
inappropriate? Click on the 'Report this post' link found
on every post.
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What do the Moderators do? The Moderators
ensure The BSWC remains a friendly, safe club for all its Members.
They will edit posts where required and move threads if they have been
started in the incorrect forum. Please try to reduce the Moderators
workload by ensuring your thread/posting is in the correct place, breaking
up large blocks of text and by not swearing.
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- The Moderators are:
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- Linda: The
BSWC Founder. Her bio can be found
here.
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- TechHelp:
Responsible for the running of The BSWC website and Forums (and is
also Linda's husband).
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- Ayola's bio:
"I'm 36 & have been married to my husband for 11 years. In our 11
years of marriage I have experienced challenging times due to problems
associated with my husband's first marriage but we have dealt with
each & every issue and moved on in our life with dignity. We
have a very happy marriage & have raised 4 beautiful children
including my SS who lives with us permanently.
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- I joined the BSWC in
April 2005 after searching the Internet for advice and found the club
via an article on the BBC news site. I believed at the time that our
problems were unique but now I know they are not unusual at all.
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- Jules' bio:
"Jules' bio: "I am a BSWCaholic! I am 41 & have been a Member
since March 2005. I met my husband in 1999 & married in 2004, a few
months after he got his absolute. I have three stepchildren (two
teenage boys & a teen girl) and three dogs. The eldest of my my
step children lived with us for just over five years before he moved
into his own place with his girlfriend and now I am a stepnan too.
The other two stepchildren live with the ex-wife and we see them
infrequently. My youngest stepson's work and my step daughter's
time is micro managed by the ex-wife and it has been up to ten months
between visits because my step daughter has been told she has xyz to
do on access dates. I have no children of my own, through choice,
don't mind kids so long as you can hand them back!"
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- Gill's bio:
"I'm Gill and I am 43. I've been with my partner for more than 7 years
and he proposed to me just after I'd given birth to our daughter 5
years ago, though heaven knows when we'll actually get married!
I have an older son who's 18 from a previous relationship, and my
partner has 2 children who, unfortunately, he didn't see at all for
almost 3 years and more than a year respectively. He is currently
going through the courts to get a contact order (though appreciates
this is near impossible to enforce) and contact has begun again
tentatively, pending a final decision in December, 18 frustrating
months after he first applied.
I found the BSWC in August 2005 and thank god I did. Its help has been
invaluable.
I live in the northern home counties, and enjoy cooking, gardening,
travel, reading (belong to a great book club), music and walking when
I have some spare time - which isn't often as I work from home as an
internet researcher most evenings and weekends"
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- MrsCurly's bio:
"I've been with my husband since 2001, we got engaged in June 2002
then found out that I was pregnant - big 'surprise.' We moved in
together in August 2002 and married in February 2003, a few weeks
before our daughter was born. I have 2 daughters (14 and 12)
from my first marriage.
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- My husband has a son
and a daughter (15 and 11). He has never had proper contact with them.
When I came on the scene things turned very nasty and we have not seen
the stepchildren since 2005. We are no strangers to Parental
Alienation Syndrome and courts and solicitors and CAFCASS etc etc.
Sadly, I did not find The BSWC until the very worst of the stress was
over - I joined 23rd July 2006. However, the Club has been invaluable
to me ever since.
My husband works at sea so is away from home for 3 weeks or so at a
time. I work part-time as a Speech and Language Therapist. In my spare
time (don't get much) I enjoy music, gardening, Tai Chi, reading,
knitting and walking, and getting together with my friends.
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- Petrova's bio:
"I'm 33, have been with partner for nearly 6 yrs. My children
(two boys, 12 & 7) live with us, as do my stepchildren (two girls, 13
& 10). My eldest son has Aspergers Syndrome. I'm here as much to
understand my past and my parents actions, as I had (what I now know
as PAS) from that situation, as well as to cope with my partner's
ex-wife. I've been here since early 2007.
- I like cooking (I
was a chef), I'd be lost without my music, am currently very into
computers, I also love to read, especially Stephen King."
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- Ellie's bio: My
name is Ellie and I am 37, I got together with my now husband 3 ˝
years ago and we recently married. I am actually a third wife.
We have a two year old son together. I have two teenagers from
my first marriage, my husband has a teenager with his first wife and
two small children from his second marriage whom he has not seen for
nearly four years, despite a long drawn out custody battle. I
came across the BSWC in 2006, through the wonderful ladies in the
club, I found answers advice and support, a life line. For the
first time in the whole ball of stress that was our lives, I realised
I was not alone.
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- I live in the
Derbyshire Dales and I work full time, I like to read when I get the
peace, quiet and opportunity, I have plenty of pets and children to
keep me busy and entertained.
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