The British Second Wives Club
 
  Welcome to The British Second Wives Club
Support, advice & friendship for Second Wives & Partners, Stepmothers & Wives of Widowers.
 
Does he have an ex-wife?
 
Is he going through a divorce?
 
Is his past still in the present and affecting you?
 
Does he have children?

Does he have an ex-girlfriend?
 
Are you a stepmother?
 
Do you want children but he has already had a vasectomy?
 
Were you 'The Other Woman'?
 
 
 
Gordon Ramsay helped The BSWC raise funds for Bridges to Belarus!
 
 
Bookings are now being taken for :
The British Second Wives Club Winter 2009 Get Together
 
It's time again for our annual winter party!  This year it is being held at a luxury hotel in the North of England in February 2009.  Dinner, entertainment and a relaxing break away from it all at a top country hotel.  Meet friends, old and new, all of whom are second wives just like you. 
The BSWC Winter Get Together is only open to BSWC Members.  Not a Member? ~ Join us!
 
 
The BSWC welcomes Second Wives from around the Globe.  Click here to find out more.

Join the BSWC today and improve your Relationship! Does he have a past? Has he been married before? Did you meet him when he was still married? Being with a man who has a past can bring many different elements into your relationship - some good, some not so good and some bad.

 Join us!  You'll meet lots of like-minded women who understand what it's like being with a man who has a past!

 In The BSWC you will find help, advice, comfort, friendship and support in a non-political & non-judgemental environment. A club for you to share the good times and the bad times, find new approaches to life's little hurdles, hook up with Ladies on your wave length and enjoy 24 hours access to the best online support from women who truly understand.
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The BSWC was formed by Linda Mellor in response for the need for a British-based Club to assist second wives, whether married or not, through the ups and downs of living with a man with a history!

The British Second Wives Club
 
Linda, who Founded The BSWC in March 2005, says:
 
"I now understand how a second wife can be driven to distraction by his jealous ex, who is unable to get over him and to move on with her life."
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

We are more than 3 yrs old! The BSWC was launched on March 1st 2005 and has had thousands of Members during that time who have found support and friendship from others in the same position.

Read what our Members have said about The BSWC:

"I love the fact the BSWC not only helps us through difficult times with our partners and stepchildren but also gives the opportunity to talk about anything and everything (good and bad) - I can truly say that I have laughed and cried with the girls in the Club."

"I was at my wits end. I knew I couldn't be the only one having the same sort of feelings but I just didn't know anyone I could talk to and would understand.  It's great to be able to ask advice, share experiences, have a laugh, all with women who know exactly what you mean."

"BSWC is a safe haven for me - a judgement-free zone where I can find support, guidance and great advice from a lot of wise women"......read more comments

We also have Members who are wives of widowers.  Many of our Members who have step children have had to deal with court applications, enforcement of court orders, parental alienation, dealing with the CSA and their assessments, CAFCASS and Social Workers, conflicting advice from solicitors, education, and health issues just to name a few.
The British Second Wives Club ForumsAt the heart of The BSWC The British Second Wives Club are the very friendly Forums and chat room, which we believe are the busiest, most informative and most secure forums of their kind in The UK. 
 
The BSWC has one if the easiest Chat Rooms to use: one click and you've in and chatting with other British Second Wives.
 
Free competitions!
The BSWC runs very regular free-to-enter competitions.  So far this year, members have won more than 40 items of jewellery, personalised caricatures and gift vouchers for Boots, M&S and other similar shops.  Another reason to join The BSWC today!
 
Have you ever felt alone, misunderstood?
The BSWC understands your situation and you'll never be alone again.  Many of The BSWC Members know what it is like living with a man with a history. Does his past interfere with your present?  We understand what it is like to live with a man with baggage!  Often there are stepchildren thrown into the pot (through no fault of their own) which causes extra chaos. 
 
 
If your man has a past, many of you will identify with the articles below, which were written for us by Members of The BSWC:
The Spiteful Ex-wife.
 
Spite n. grudge: lasting ill-will:hatred.- v.i. to vex: to thwart: to hate. - adj. spite'ful full of spite: desirous to vex or injure: malignant. -adv. spite'fully. -n. spite'fulness. -in spite of in opposition to all efforts of, in defiance of, in contempt of: notwithstanding; spite (of) despite.
 
The BSWC has discovered a considerable number of ex-wives are consumed with spite....read more
 
Season of Goodwill?
Not if you are with a man who is divorced!
 
Christmas isn’t the season to be jolly with some ex-wives and goodwill isn’t extended to divorced dads or ex-husbands.  Christmas can be a very fraught time for families, especially so in second marriages when the festivities demand multiple arrangements to be made with ex-spouses to accommodate Father Christmas, children and step-children....read more
 
 
The BSWC article on ex-wives who refuse to move on
 
While conducting research into second marriages, The BSWC revealed a surprising number of second marriages were strained by the interference & the unwanted interest of the ex-wife...read more
 
Bitter Ex Wife Pattern
 
It is recognised and accepted that Divorce is a painful, emotional process and it takes time for both separated spouses to recover and get on with their new lives. The BSWC has found, and many health professions agree, it takes at least 12 months for parties to get over the divorce and focus on their new lives however many 2nd marriages are finding, sometimes years after the previous marriage had ended in divorce, they are having to deal with the a bitter ex-wife who refuses to get over it...read more
Parental Alienation

Below are the more common symptoms of parental alienation. Many of these behaviours will look familiar, because some alienation occurs in all divorces. ....read more

Be heard!
 
Make your views heard!  Please take a few minutes to complete our Second Wives Surveys.
 
Help us to write The BSWC Second Wives book
 
Whether you are a BSWC Member or not, we would like to help us write The Second Wives book, due to be published in 2009.  Click here to tell your story for inclusion in the book or click here to read the stories already submitted.
 
Raising funds for Charity
 
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The BSWC is proud to support Bridges to Belarus helping children affected by the Chernobyl disaster.  More....
 
We recently raised £150 to pay for a much needed new cooker for this family, by raffling a signed photograph of Gordon Ramsay (thank you Gordon!)
 
The British Second Wives Club supported Breakthrough Breast Cancer by auctioning The Gina Shoes used in the photo shoot for the cover of novel "The Second Wives Club" by Jane Moore during May 2006.
 
We raised £320.00 which was donated to Breakthrough Breast Cancer.  Click here for details
 
Let's meet!
 
Great fun get-togethers!  The BSWC holds an annual Christmas Party and a Summer BBQ, as well as many local get-together organised by the Members themselves.  Members often meet over a coffee or a glass of wine in their local area and many say it is like meeting old friends.  Many new, strong friendships have blossomed in this way and, because we vet all new Members carefully, you know you will be safe meeting others for the first time.   The 2009 annual winter Get Together is taking place in early Februray.

Join us today!

New Members join us daily - why don't you? Once you have registered & have been approved, you can gain access to The Forums, Chat Room and Members Area.  You can also enter our regular, free competitions! 

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