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About Linda Mellor
The British Second Wives Club Founder
 
Linda Mellor (45) is The Founder of The British Second Wives Club (The BSWC), which began offering support and friendship to Second Wives in Britain in March 2005. Linda lives in Cumbria with her husband Richard and their The British Second Wives Club Founderthree Airedale Terriers.

Linda was born and educated in Scotland then moved to London in her early twenties and built a successful career in Recruitment, and latterly, Head Hunting. She escaped London to live rurally in Devon and is now settled in Cumbria. Linda is a professional photographer, she enjoys walking, drawing, exploring the countryside, theatre and is actively involved in the rescue of Airedale Terriers. Linda actively promotes The BSWC in The Media and on Radio, raising the profile of second wives in Britain and the problems they face.

Linda says "When I met my husband to be in 2001, he was recently separated and living in a rented room in Bristol. His divorce was a very long drawn out affair and he faced many problems, many of them connected with child contact.

 
I supported him through the divorce and countless Court hearings and, although it had nothing to do with me (or so I thought), I began to be dragged into it all.  I fully understand what it is like being the partner of a man who has been married before. You meet a man, you fall in love and suddenly you're dragged into the middle of stressful and acrimonious exchanges when one of the parties is demanding to know everything about your life, your finances and even the value of the car you drive.
 
I now understand how a second wife can be driven to distraction by his jealous ex, who is unable to get over him and to move on with her life. You find yourself asking the same questions, over and over again: she wanted a divorce, she has a new lover, so why does she have a problem with him getting on with his life? Why can't she accept the marriage is over when she was the one who ended it by having an affair?  Why is she deliberately trying to cut him out of the children's lives?"

Linda searched for support hoping to find other women who have had similar experiences but she couldn't find anything to help. 
 
Linda says "I realised I couldn't be the only woman living with a man who has been married before but there was no support available anywhere.  I went from looking for support for myself, to wanting to help others who are in the same situation".

On March 1st 2005, Linda launched The British Second Wives Club and immediately hit the headlines thanks to the very high profile April Wedding of Prince Charles to his second wife Camilla. The BSWC has grown steadily since its launch, offering its Members a supportive and understanding environment to discuss and share their experiences of living with a man who has been married before.

Linda says "On finding The BSWC, so many women expressed how relieved they felt and how they took so much comfort in knowing they are not alone and The BSWC is here to help and support them. There are so many elements to being a second wife and in The British Second Wives Club we understand them all, because we are all second wives".
 
Would you like to talk directly to Linda, someone who understands exactly how you feel?  Linda offers Second Wife Coaching, click here for more details.
 
 
The British Second Wives Club website can be found at www.thebritishsecondwivesclub.co.uk .
 
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