Right from the
beginning I knew my husbands ex was going to be a problem, in fact he
warned me quite early on.
We married in Sept and had our 18
month old son christened, my stepdaughters were our bridesmaids and we as
a family get on fine.
Over the last five years we have
had phone calls from the ex telling him he cannot see the kids unless he
gives her more money, messages calling him all sorts of names, text
messages telling him his children do not like him.
We pay over £500 per month via the
CSA. We have worked hard and have a nice house our son, I am very lucky
that as long as I am careful with money I can be at home with him.
When they split she had an affair,
it turns out quite a few, he tried to make it work, but in the end left.
She had not only had affairs but had cleaned them out financially, she
would have a go at him if he bought himself a suit, as a business man you
need suits don't you!!!! She would write a cheque and write £20.00 on the
stub then when the statement came through is would show £200.00, when
confronted it was the banks fault, when a copy of the signed cheque came
through, it was not her fault. Just an absolute nightmare.
We have noticed a pattern every
January she gets nasty as once again she has overspent at Christmas,
(which is our fault work that one out if you can), she made herself
bankrupt in Nov (our fault again!!!!!!)
What really gets up my nose is
every time we go away or buy something for the house we get some sly
comment or text. The best one is we have just booked our first foreign
holiday, paid for by vouchers we asked for for wedding presents, "how does
it make you feel paying for your holiday and not paying for something for
your daughters". We are not taking them as we could not afford to also we
are going during school time, and I am sorry but it is our holiday. The
girls understand and go away with us at other times of the year and with
their mothers family, they do not go without.
Why oh why can she just not get a
life, she has had several boyfriends who have come and gone, (once she has
bled them dry).
We no she hates us fine, but why
can she not see that the girls are of an age where they are working out
for themselves what she is like. If the girls don't like their father why
do they come over, why do they call why do they text him?
She is very sad and needs to move
on.
Your 10 tips on "baggage are
brilliant" she thinks she can control us and is very jealous,
unfortunately for her we do not react, we do not reply to texts, when she
tells us we cannot see the girls we say fine, they are soon on the phone
wanting to come over, she cannot stop that no matter what she says. We
have told her we are going to ask the girls about the texts telling us
that they are scared of us, or don't want to come, do you know the texts
have stopped.
