I met a guy who's 10yrs older than me, and I love him dearly. He has 3 kids who live with his ex. They're just going through a divorce at the moment, and I don't know whether or not it's going to help things.

She isn't outright horrible to me - and my partner thinks I'm being paranoid, which I might be, I don't know. She arranges things like family do's and doesn't invite me, or buys him gifts on his birthdays, phones him when she knows he's not with me, gets him to do the lawn, fix the computer, come round and put the kids to bed when she's ill...

... all things which, well, I feel isn't right for someone who are separated. I know he does it to keep the peace, and because he feels sorry for her, and for the kids to keep his relationship with his ex a good one. But I know she gets satisfaction out of knowing she makes it hard for me. I've tried to talk to her, but she doesn't want to know...

I don't know what to do... I love him dearly, but I don't know whether I can cope with her - especially when we argue over it and he doesn't understand.