I was introduced to my
now husband through a friend at work but when she told that he had been
married and had four children I took some convincing for me to go on a
first blind date. When I first met him I was hooked. This was
just over two years ago and there have been plenty of traumas on the way.
I moved in with him while still
keeping my flat but leaving it empty. I tried to sell it but no
property was moving at the time. He sold that house and we brought
the next between us taking with us his then 20 year old problem daughter -
bad move. Within a couple of months I could see I was up against it
and things went from bad to worse. We had a rather bad row and she
punched me in the face causing my nose to bleed, her dad sat on the fence
and told us to get on with it, which of course I could not. I moved
out - I had come from an intolerable relationship with my first husband of
thirty years and I was not about to throw myself in the frying pan again.
I still loved him so we carried on
seeing each other with him visiting me only. We very nearly broke up
for good and it was a very bad time for us. I insisted my name came
off his house which it did and he carried on living there and me in my
flat.
I then got a job near him so I
sold my flat and bought a house near him also changing my job. It
was then he moved in with me but still keeping his house for the daughter
to live in and paying all the bills for it as she only works part time.
Now he has decided to sell and give her £12, 000 to move out and get her
own place - well what could I say or we would never have a life together.
We have just got married last
month and she still lives in the house while he tries to sell it.
This is not ideal as his first wife took more than two thirds of his last
house which was fully paid for. She is laughing at the moment - no
mortgage. I would not mind but she works part time.
He also has another son of 13 and
daughter at university who he pays for. It just seems to me the
first wife has it cushy. She does what she likes and the best of it
is she has the whole weekend to herself. I should have gone with my
first gut reaction, oh well too late now.
At the end of the day I have my
true soul mate and that's what counts. It is because he is a very
caring person that he did not throw his daughter out which is what I would
have done but then my daughters would not have behaved the way she did and
still does to this day.
